Ordinary Time is not Ordinary

on changing through trauma and grief

Trauma and loss are dis-ordering events.

Photo by Joe Beck on Unsplash

We feel outside of the “ordinary” experience.

It is as if you suddenly go from being in the movie to watching the screen from the outside.

The previous order no longer holds.

You can either keep trying to hold onto a structure that no longer works, or experience the anxiety of letting it go.

Image by Wolfgang Eckert from Pixabay

We begin to reach toward some way of ordering our experience.

Telling our selves a story about the trauma does not change the fact that it happened; but it can help us figure out the next steps.

Alphas, omegas, and numbering the days.

This period of early Christian history would have been a time of chaos and disorder, of trauma and multiple losses.

Because after an experience of death, loss, and trauma, (even when we see that new life/resurrection has come), we need the feeling of “ordering” our days, counting them, knowing that after 1 comes 2, then 3, and 4 then 5; we need a sense that there is an “alpha” and an “omega”.

Photo by Christopher Sardegna on Unsplash

clinical social worker, spiritual director, author, husband, father, son, runner in Georgia, co-author of When Anxiety Strikes from Kregel Publications.

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