“Making them work for it!”

some thoughts from a parent/therapist on children and chores

So in my experience with raising children and guiding parents, here are some general guidelines (and explanations below):

Choose the right chore for your child.

The perfect chore is one that requires a bit of effort, but is doable for your child.

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Make sure that there is some quick, positive reinforcement.

Quick and consistent reinforcement of the chore is important!

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Choose a small chore that happens daily and a larger weekly chore.

Small successes build up to larger successes.

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With siblings, make sure that chores exist in silos, that one child’s chore is not dependent on another child’s chore.

As much as possible, have the consequence for the non-completion of a chore fall on that child only.

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Remember that they are learning.

clinical social worker, spiritual director, author, husband, father, son, runner in Georgia, co-author of When Anxiety Strikes from Kregel Publications.

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