“I can just about promise you they won’t be doing that at graduation.”

Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often.

Momentary parental fears have replaced a longer, developmental view of your child’s behavior.

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Our reaction as parents matters.

Remember that the larger our parental reaction, the more incentive there is for a child to lie.

This is a feature, not a bug, of their developing brain.

“Why did you do that? Didn’t you know that it was dangerous?”

Sheepishly they respond, “Uh … no?”

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The reactions of their peers become more and more important.

As someone who sees a fair amount of young teens in my office, it is not lost on me that “scent” comes with adole”scents”.

Remember that growth and change often take time.

The truth is that they are not ready … yet.

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clinical social worker, spiritual director, author, husband, father, son, runner in Georgia, co-author of When Anxiety Strikes from Kregel Publications.

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